I find it easier for myself to focus when I've let go of resentment. On the other hand, I don't believe it's always beneficial as a whole, if people are immediately forgiven by everyone around them without first earning that forgiveness.
Mm. And such is the benefit of a lack of forgiveness, I suppose. If it's something that is always easily given, people don't learn how to change.
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From a practical standpoint, I think that if someone is genuinely trying to understand or correct their wrongs, it's helpful to give them an inch depending on the outcome you want to achieve.
I'm not usually in a position to hold grudges, I think.
But similar principles apply to facing an opponent. There are some you might be inclined to spare, and then there are those who aren't worth it, even if just because of the particular situation.
I won't pretend I love everyone, but I've learned how to let go quickly enough, and that serves my own purposes better than resentment does.
[emotions are emotions, but sometimes, you are very good at managing your own, at least.]
In the end, the world is a place where everyone pursues their own idea of justice or happiness. Inevitably, those things will clash, and it's up to each person to decide what they'll fight for and what they'll concede.
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Cetus-san, what are your thoughts on forgiveness?
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I think that's up to the individual.
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I find it easier for myself to focus when I've let go of resentment. On the other hand, I don't believe it's always beneficial as a whole, if people are immediately forgiven by everyone around them without first earning that forgiveness.
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[ she throws some more cereal into the pond. ]
People shouldn't be allowed to keep doing wrongs, time and time again.
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From a practical standpoint, I think that if someone is genuinely trying to understand or correct their wrongs, it's helpful to give them an inch depending on the outcome you want to achieve.
But certainly, no one is ever entitled to it.
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If someone is genuine, if someone will change, if it will do more good in the end, I do think forgiveness should be extended.
A little compassion and kindness can do so much. I know that, as much as anyone else, but it only works on those who care enough.
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But similar principles apply to facing an opponent. There are some you might be inclined to spare, and then there are those who aren't worth it, even if just because of the particular situation.
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I think you can hold grudges no matter what position you're in even if you feel you can do anything about it.
[ is it productive? not usually, but emotions are emotions. ]
... that's true enough. Forgiveness can be its own battle, too.
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I won't pretend I love everyone, but I've learned how to let go quickly enough, and that serves my own purposes better than resentment does.
[emotions are emotions, but sometimes, you are very good at managing your own, at least.]
In the end, the world is a place where everyone pursues their own idea of justice or happiness. Inevitably, those things will clash, and it's up to each person to decide what they'll fight for and what they'll concede.
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[ if you divorce and compartmentalize your feelings enough, if you separate and set yourself apart like that. ]
We aren't all going to get along, and everyone's values aren't going to align. We all have our own experiences to shape us to be who we are.
It's just a matter of what happens when no one will concede and how ugly it'll become because of that.
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It probably wouldn't hurt to have someone mediate if it gets to that point.
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Perhaps, but you'd have to find someone willing to do it.